I just got off the phone with a business and/or life coach. He was giving away 1 hour for free to people that wanted it, from a Facebook group I’m on.
It’s funny, because when there is someone ELSE to talk too, that isn’t a best or close friend, the way is open for new ideas to come to you _as well_ as being able to HEAR ideas from someone else. Because you KNOW there’s no hidden agenda from them and your brain is freer to think without having to worry about what you want/should say. [make sure though, that they have your best interests at heart, not their pocketbook].
I kept saying I needed a schedule, but what I really need, is to not be so hard on my self. Steve [my ex, now my best friend] has been saying that for YEARS. But what does that mean? How does that look on paper? Yahhh, I couldn’t figure it out so i couldn’t do it.
And most of the time, I overthink. Anyway. The one thing this person said with me that stood out?
“It’s not reasonable to fit all I have to do in a day”. It VALIDATES ME. That I CAN”T do it all. It’s not REASONABLE. Oh damn. This is great! What a LOAD off!
This is what Steve has said all these years. It set me free to ——–
Stop trying to DO SO MUCH.
It released me to ‘not be so hard on myself’. Which also goes along with the thought I had 3 months ago, that I don’t always HAVE to DO something to prove my worth insofar that I am taking up breathing space. [a shrink would have a field day I’m sure]
My own ideas:
JOURNAL MY TIME EVERY DAY. I’m choosing to do it for 3 days. I will find out where my time wasters are and what I do.
I will Step away from my desk for breaks.
Since my stop work time is 6 p.m., which I decided on about a month ago, anything I do on the computer after that is fun time for me. Facebook, farmtown, backgammon. It’s OK to be kind to myself. It’s _necessary_ to be kind to myself. By taking care of my self, I will be better able to give through Soothing Hearts.
I will set myself a schedule and I will get done the things that need to get done. But I will give myself more time to do them and take smaller bites every day, instead of allowing myself to get overwhelmed with what I need to do and then nothing gets done.
And the business kicker I realized? I can’t help you if I don’t take care of myself. Seriously, not as a cliche but as a fact.
I want to provide you with the information, the products, the resources you need to take better care of yourself. I want you to remember to take smaller bites on new steps you are taking to take better care of yourself.
Most of us take care of others really well. We do not take care of ourselves really well. Let’s change that! One small step at a time. Are you with me?